Couples therapy is not just a means by which we heal our marriages and relationships, it also promotes a quality of self-reflection that is difficult to achieve without the mirror of another.
Few situations aggravate unhealed wounds from our past like romantic partnerships. Family relationships, painful events and unaddressed emotions inevitably rise to the surface when we are intimately involved with another.
Just as painful moments in life are opportunities for growth, working through relationship problems can initiate the highest healing. Because so many of our wounds are created through relationships, being with someone is an opportunity to learn an entirely new way of showing up in the world. The changes you make through couples therapy will affect all other relationships in your life, including your primary one – the relationship you have with yourself.
Building safety, trust, understanding, healthy communication and compassion with our partners are the primary goals of good couples therapy. I am a sex-positive, LGBTQ affirming couples therapist familiar with working with many different forms of partnership.
The focus of my work with couples involves:
- Identifying current problems and old resentments.
- Learning authentic, direct and generous communication skills.
- Developing shared rules and goals for the relationship and future.
- Cultivating empathy and mutual acceptance.
- Creating real intimacy, connection and partnership.
- Enhancing physical connectedness and building a deeply satisfying sexual connection.